WidowSpeak – Random thoughts after losing my husband

Category: Intimacy

  • 2am

    2am

    I haven’t been sleeping well lately. I fall asleep quickly but wake up multiple times in the middle of the night and just stare at the ceiling. Sometimes for hours. Maybe it’s insomnia, maybe it’s depression. I think I’m just lonely. I’m not talking about lonely for visitors. I don’t mean lonely for conversation around…

  • I don’t want to be lonely

    I don’t want to be lonely

    I was watching one of my favorite movies, “Six Days Seven Nights” with Anne Heche and Harrison Ford. I found myself laughing out loud when well-endowed Angelica (Jacqueline Obradors) stood half naked in her bungalow trying to seduce a grieving yet secretly hopeful Frank (David Schwimmer). “It’s like after a funeral” she said. “Everybody has…

  • Let’s talk about sex

    Let’s talk about sex

    I’ve read a lot of books on grief over the past ten months. I’ve sat through a few classes, talked with quite a few widows and widowers, and the one subject that has never come up is sex. When my husband died, my sex life, and all the intimacy in my life died with him.…